Where is the Rice?

I reach France to attend the Women’s Forum and it is the first day of the program. I am rushing for a workshop at the Cartier Headquarters and the phone rings. It is my husband and the first thing that he wants to know is  Where is the rice?

Rice? Duh! Really!  – Of course I tell him without even blinking and off he goes.

What flabbergasts me the most is that there are some stereotypes that never die. Between me and my husband, none of us cook, we pretty much share grocery and other duties but when it comes to ‘Where’ I find that men tend to assume that women know and usually they are right.

If there was a ranking for domestic duty proficiency – chances are that I will flunk it and my husband will pass with flying colors. But yet, I find time and again that domestic oblique just comes and gets stuck to women, hard to be undone.

Ask any woman, most of them are very in-charge of things at home but even for those who are not – in a major way, find themselves owing that piece.

A conversation with Mary Kronin @marycronin of @thousandseeds over a meal revealed a similar pattern. Both of us sat there amazed at the fact that as two women who have never met, how similar our lives are.

During my conversations at Fleximoms, I realize domestic marshland is the most under stated reason why women don’t back their careers up or pursue their ambition. The unsaid order of things, the need to fulfill the expected and the randomness of routine.

No, I am not offering a solution.

Just wondering – on a bus ride from Deauville to Paris!

Readiness to be ready. Choice to change.

May your mind transcend limitations. May your consciousness expand in every direction. May you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be. – Patanjali
 One of the challenges of being an adult is that one is absolutely accountable to oneself. And that is the pretty hard place, because not only we get away by making others believe but also ourselves into things that may have been our reality once but not anymore. Our tendency to believe that things are working out, while they are not is the biggest challenge of
making work-life choices.
A lot of our decisions however are governed by the externalities and our context and context like everything is constantly evolving.
In a recent Fleximoms discussion about work life choices, something a participant said was so simple and profound. She said that in her 20 years of being a professional and a single mum, eliminating the unessential had been her mantra to keep moving forward. It allowed her to prioritize, get things done and keep her commitments to herself and her children.
I came across this fabulous article on WSJ by Lynda Gratton  and I found myself nodding as I was reading the article. In context of workflex, women and work, the changing dynamic of relationships at work and home are redefining the emerging horizon of opportunities and challenges.
Earlier this week, Seth Godin wrote a piece where he says, the emerging economic order has little place for average, cog in the wheel worker. Here is the link   The returning and career transition professional is at at the learning curve of the workplace and skill opportunity.
The customized, choice economy is for real and we are witness to its various elements everyday.  
After all, it is the readiness to be ready, the willingness to change (constantly) and making choices that work for you that sets the tone for how accountable is one to oneself.
What choice are you making today?